It's hard to imagine, in the long years since her death, hard not to redact oral history in her favor, but Grandma Eva had no sense of humor. This is not to say that she was stern, or judgmental, or quelling. She wasn't any of those things. She just didn't really get or make jokes--and I'm not referring to the "so a man walked into a bar" variety, but rather to the true wit and acerbity, the everyday hilarity and the bon mots indulged with wicked abandon by my family.
Grandpa Max adored his bride, despite the disability. He could find solace with his confederates--his daughters, brother, grandchildren, all in possession of genetically encoded, environmentally honed funniness. He knew grandma would always be there, standing to one side of the laughter, smiling a little sideways smile.
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Well, she certainly looks like she could have a sense of humor with that smile! I love her hat.
ReplyDeleteYour header pic could be a sepia saturday entry all in itself! :)
perhaps grandma eva was cracking up inside, but had to protect her image!!
ReplyDeleteshe's certainly has one sly smile and a special light behind those eyes!
loverly photos!!!
She must have had something special going for her for gramps to have adored her so.
ReplyDeleteto one side of the laughter, thats so apt
ReplyDeleteI love her hat and she looks full of humour here
love that sideways smile. she looks i good humor at least...and there is something to be said for knowing she would always be there.
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful piece of writing, Leah. Sigh. Delightful sideways smile pics, too.
ReplyDeleteI, on the other hand, am one of those silly types.
I love that sideways smile. Perhaps she was giggling inside, without giving too much away.
ReplyDeleteYou surprise me when you say she had no sense of humour ... I thought she looked like a merry soul, especially in the first picture. All this digging out of old photographs is very nostalgic... I'm enjoying it.
ReplyDeleteA great post, and I love that she has a different expression in each post and that you see the train station platform in the background in the last one. Is that Williamsburg? Thanks for contributing to Sepia Saturday.
ReplyDeleteShe Looks A Happy Body.A Warm Smile Is Usally Enough.Who Took The Photos Do You Know? She Obviously Liked The Photographer.
ReplyDeleteyou have her eyes, sugar! what a perfect pairing of images. ;~D xoxoxo
ReplyDeleteI'd never guess from that rather impish smile in her photos that Grandma Eva had no sense of humor. Wonderfully told--& I loved the quote from "Wanderin'" under your profile!
ReplyDeleteThanks for following at RFBanjo.
Everyone got funnier AFTER prohibition was lifted. Grandma Eva looks a tad tipsy with the cocked hat and impish grin. I think I would have liked her.
ReplyDeleteShe does look like she'd be fun. Maybe she kept it for special occasions.
ReplyDeleteWhat Betsy said; but I've know people that cannot( for whatever reason ), see the funny or get the joke...
ReplyDeleteThis is a great photo of her. I'm trying to imagine how life would look if one really did not get the subtleties of wit and humor. Those of us that have it must look like aliens to her.
ReplyDeleteWho would have thunk? She's got such brio!
ReplyDeleteIt amazes me how much you favor her, especially around the eyes.
ReplyDeleteShe's beautiful. A beautiful smile, and some might say that those who don't get the jokes of today (or yesterday) have a very innocent air about them, a certain naivete which is appealing in it's own right.
She's lovely. Just like you.
Oh, she was so cute; she reminds me of Shirley Booth of "Hazel" fame.
ReplyDeleteI love the Marlene Dietrich-tilt to her hat.
I imagine she was happy just to listen to all the goings-on around her. Sometimes its tough to keep up with banter and bon mots. Perhaps she felt it easier to just stay quiet, smile and enjoy.
Lovely photos of her, Leah. She must have been a treasure.
This is a test, because I wrote a comment, blinked and then forgot if I posted it. Sorry.
ReplyDeleteI can't get over how, not even "knowing you" I feel like the first and last picture totally look like you!
ReplyDeleteAwesome read. As usual!
Dear Leah,
ReplyDeleteYour post got me thinking about my own Grandmother and it occured to me that, like many women of her generation, someone in the family had to mantain a sense of seriousness, decorum and sobriety. This was the case with my Grandmother, though when caught in moments alone when she tought that the coast was clear could be found giggling away to herself (usually by the kitchen sink adorned in one of her many aprons doing mountains of dishes) repeating to herself the funny lines made in conversation by other family members.
But in the company of others would always be on the sidelines just observing without participation in the repartee, but always with her own little sideways smile.
what a cute picture - I love her top hat set off to the side
ReplyDeleteand I think I agree with so many of the other commenters, she looks like she did have a sense of humor that she just enjoyed keeping to her herself.
I miss my grandmothers too, thankfully they live to be 95 and 99.
My daughter-in-law has this issue -- a problem in this word wit family. Someone usually has to explain.
ReplyDeleteThis sounds just like my Grandma Bunny. The family kind of ran circles around her in this area. But she was adored nonetheless.
ReplyDelete'It was inside I was laughing'!
ReplyDeleteThat's what I saw in her face!
xxx
I agree with Savvy, the eyes have it indeed. The smile is wider than you may have first thought.
ReplyDeleteIt was certainly a man who placed that sparkle about her eyes.
Having a completely crazy sense of humour myself, I'm always bemused by people who never seem to see the funny side of anything and take life 100 per cent seriously. But they're probably equally bemused by me and think I'm shockingly frivolous.
ReplyDeleteShe must have been laughing inside because she had to have decorum during those days, and maybe she would go into a back room and roar with laughter and no one ever knew. She was beautiful and had a gorgeous smile. You do seem to favor her.
ReplyDeleteHappy Valentine's Day to you all.
God bless.
She is lovely!
ReplyDeleteThe hat and the smile is great. Only if life didn't have to become so serious. Not too brave to take a chance to enjoy. Safer to stay inside oneself. Great photos.
ReplyDeleteAh - I'm jealous! I wish I could capture the true essence of someone with so few words!
ReplyDeleteI love the first photograph - she seems to be looking with such hope and confidence into the future.
She looks like someone who many not have had the first laugh but she probably often had the last!
Evelyn in Montreal
Blimey, no sense of humour you say? That could put a man on edge at first. Wish I had some pics of old family.
ReplyDeleteWell if she did not get the jokes she still had a great smile. Reminds me of my dear mother who would just smile when a joke went over her head. Thanks for sharing the great pictures Leah.
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